Guys…did I put myself in his “friend zone”?

Ex and I have been best friends for over a yr (broke up over a misunderstanding awhile ago). He’s been out of town for work all summer and we talk 4 or 5x a day, he says he misses me, etc. Before he left we were together every single day for 7 or 8 months, hanging out, spending the night (no sex) etc. Says if he was going to date anyone right now, it would be me. He recently flew me out to visit, and it was great except for a fight we got into before I left. (Weird bc we never fight) During the fight he said, “I was going to get back w/ you when I got back,” implying he’s not now. He said he’d been wanting to date me again for a long time. We left angry; now things are pretty much back to normal — calling a lot, calling me pet names, etc.

It was spoken out of anger.

I’m sure you’ve been in relationships before where you get so mad at each other that you say things like “Well maybe we should just break up then!” This is the same case, except you weren’t actually together to be broken up with. So he said the first angry thing that sprang to mind.

Truth is, you’re already in a relationship. You’re calling daily, calling each other pet names, saying you miss each other, spending nights, heck … you even got into a lover’s spat that was quickly resolved (by the way, I’d recommend apologizing for your part in the spat … he’ll likely apologize too, and the air will be clear).

Just because neither one of you has said, “will you go out with me”, or you haven’t had sex doesn’t mean you’re not going steady.

He’s not your “ex”, Jena. He’s your boyfriend.

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